I was a GC/TERF too at one point and materialist feminism was sooooo helpful for me once I decided to leave the community. Great article, I hope it changes minds and reorients people’s flawed transphobic feminism in the fight direction.
This is extraordinarily good - closely reasoned and rigorous in a way I suppose only someone arguing against their former position is likely to be. Excellent piece.
I never understood why it seems so hard to acknowledge that while fertility and the role in reproduction *shape* gender this does not mean that how society treats gendered people must depend solely on their reproductive capability. Women's oppression does not solely stem from individual reproductive capability but from women in general usually being the ones who give birth.
We can easily see this in how women who *don't* or *can't* fulfil their reproductive role are *also* punished.
Be it lesbians, single women, infertile women or *drumroll* trans women.
I have seen GC women spout borderline tradwife rhetoric - as if the true calling for a woman can only be motherhood. In both cases it's motherhood that seems to make a woman - with the difference that the GCs in question define womanhood as the suffering from childbirth and care work and tradwifes glorify the very same. And both look down on women who refuse or are incompatible with that ideal.
(I always wonder how that is compatible with the lesbian separatism that is also popular)
What is a "gynephilia cis male" and how is this relevant here?
Forget gender, forget Jesus - this is a medical issue.
Follow the science - if he has gender dysphoria to the point where GnRHa are needed, it's usually the best option with the best outcomes. Regret rates are some of the lowest compared to any medical treatment. There is risk - there is always risk. Read up on it in actually peer reviewed journals if you must.
Treat the body as it is. Trans people do not deny their biology usually. To the contrary - care tailored to the specific trans body is important. Help him find a trans friendly obgyn.
Helping your kid medically doesn't need to be an ontological journey.
A trans body is a body that underwent gender affirming care. Pretty simple. If you can't see that those bodies need different treatment than an average cis body I don't know what to tell you.
I'm with a board of people who review those studies. If you don't read the primary sources and systematic reviews I literally can't help you. News outlets are mostly anti trans and you'll always pick what sounds best to you. If you only read American and UK outlets it's even worse.
If your kid doesn't have dysphoria you don't need blockers anyways. Treat him with respect and you'll probably be all set.
You seem to have very clearly picked a side. You said you come here with an open mind but you clearly don't. I clearly won't be able to help you or your family, so I'll spend my time where I can. I count the UK and US as lost anyways in this regard for the coming years. I'll have to stick to my own country.
I banned him and deleted his replies (can't stand GC men at all), but yeah, I wouldn't usually bother talking to these people unless they're expressing doubts, the 'open mind' claim is never for real.
I was a GC/TERF too at one point and materialist feminism was sooooo helpful for me once I decided to leave the community. Great article, I hope it changes minds and reorients people’s flawed transphobic feminism in the fight direction.
This is extraordinarily good - closely reasoned and rigorous in a way I suppose only someone arguing against their former position is likely to be. Excellent piece.
Loved you in twitter before I left. Hope this makes some people think
I love this so much it made me cry. The way you mixed a solid material analysis and flowing human empathy was beautiful and painful at the same time.
I never understood why it seems so hard to acknowledge that while fertility and the role in reproduction *shape* gender this does not mean that how society treats gendered people must depend solely on their reproductive capability. Women's oppression does not solely stem from individual reproductive capability but from women in general usually being the ones who give birth.
We can easily see this in how women who *don't* or *can't* fulfil their reproductive role are *also* punished.
Be it lesbians, single women, infertile women or *drumroll* trans women.
I have seen GC women spout borderline tradwife rhetoric - as if the true calling for a woman can only be motherhood. In both cases it's motherhood that seems to make a woman - with the difference that the GCs in question define womanhood as the suffering from childbirth and care work and tradwifes glorify the very same. And both look down on women who refuse or are incompatible with that ideal.
(I always wonder how that is compatible with the lesbian separatism that is also popular)
Oh my god, please read the article you comment under again. She already lays it out pretty well.
What is a "gynephilia cis male" and how is this relevant here?
Forget gender, forget Jesus - this is a medical issue.
Follow the science - if he has gender dysphoria to the point where GnRHa are needed, it's usually the best option with the best outcomes. Regret rates are some of the lowest compared to any medical treatment. There is risk - there is always risk. Read up on it in actually peer reviewed journals if you must.
Treat the body as it is. Trans people do not deny their biology usually. To the contrary - care tailored to the specific trans body is important. Help him find a trans friendly obgyn.
Helping your kid medically doesn't need to be an ontological journey.
A trans body is a body that underwent gender affirming care. Pretty simple. If you can't see that those bodies need different treatment than an average cis body I don't know what to tell you.
I'm with a board of people who review those studies. If you don't read the primary sources and systematic reviews I literally can't help you. News outlets are mostly anti trans and you'll always pick what sounds best to you. If you only read American and UK outlets it's even worse.
If your kid doesn't have dysphoria you don't need blockers anyways. Treat him with respect and you'll probably be all set.
You seem to have very clearly picked a side. You said you come here with an open mind but you clearly don't. I clearly won't be able to help you or your family, so I'll spend my time where I can. I count the UK and US as lost anyways in this regard for the coming years. I'll have to stick to my own country.
I banned him and deleted his replies (can't stand GC men at all), but yeah, I wouldn't usually bother talking to these people unless they're expressing doubts, the 'open mind' claim is never for real.